Romantic Dreams… Taking Every Thought Captive

(Transferred from my previous blog)

In continuation of my notes...

Many of us maidens have spent, at least, a few times
thinking, dreaming, wondering, imagining, &
asking the Lord about our futures.
While it is completely normal to wonder and think
about what might be in store for us,
we often find that the enemy
will use this area to distract us
from our focus on Christ.
In addition to our own struggles with our thoughts,
not to mention the influences around us,
is the fact that sooner or later
we're likely to meet a young man that we 'like'.

The problem isn't so much as having a 'crush',
but how we respond to it.
One of the annoying things about 'crushes'
is that they happen so quickly.
We can meet a young man,
and before we ever really know him,
we can find ourselves daydreaming about him,
possibly attaching our first name
to his last name to see how it sounds,
and maybe picking out colors for our bridesmaid's dresses.
And when we finally notice what we're doing,
we feel disgusted or embarrassed,
and purpose not to think about it anymore.
But 5 minuets later,
we suddenly realize we've just been
dreaming of "so and so" all over again...
wondering what our children would look like,
or listing good places to go on a honeymoon, and so on.
So what should we do?

It's a really good idea
not to talk about him with friends,
give any indications that you might be
interested in him or dwelling on thoughts of him.
One of the best ways
is to talk to your parents about it.
Though this may seem to be
difficult, scary, or embarrassing,
they likely already know how you feel anyway.
This way they will be better able to
pray for, protect, and advise you.

Another idea would be
to say a quick prayer for this particular young man,
(and not to pray that he would be God's will )
but that he would be strong in the Lord
and be faithful in bringing forth fruit in his life.
But I, also, recommend NOT praying for
this particular young man often or in detail.
Whether or not he really is God's will,
which he will reveal to you in His timing, if he is)
our responsibility is to trust God in the area of marriage;
treat the young man in the same way
we would treat any other brother in Christ,
and focus on the Lord and doing His will.


"Casting down imaginations,
and every high thing that exalteth itself
against the knowledge of God,
and bringing into captivity
every thought to the obedience of Christ"
~ 2 Corinthians 10:5

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true,
whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just,
whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely,
whatsoever things are of good report;
if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise,
think on these things.
Philippians 4:8